How are you thinking in the wrong way?

In the CBT treatment for depression… central emphasis is placed on how the client’s thinking about themselves, and the events of the day, contains cognitive error that sets the client up for a depressive outcomes. Likewise, couples set themselves up for negative cycles in marriage by each partner’s out-of-kilter/distorted/defended ways of thinking about the other. Following the unpacking of the patterns of emotional reactivity in the negative cycle, which is at the core of EFT couples work… it then becomes important to recognize and take apart the negative conclusions each partner makes about the other. Over time, this becomes important because healing moments in the actual couples sessions can quickly be dismantled by these ingrained conclusions in the hours and days following the session.