The two different action tendencies (pursuing and avoiding) are two different ways of responding to vulnerability. One reaches for reassurance from the other to be reassured while the other holds back and cautiously proceeds until the signs indicate that is is safe to proceed. The pursuer will commonly not be reassured by the avoiders holding back, and the avoider will commonly feel intimidated by the pull from their partner to come forward. `
About Orin Borders, Ph.D.
Orin Borders, Ph.D, a psychologist in private practice with a long standing interest in the Marriage-Of-Opposites, is the originator on this site.
