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The contribution of individual sessions to taking down the “bad objecting” the other

June 8, 2025

The point I’m making here… is that it is the “inward maintenance” of viewing the other as “the bad object” that is the underlying energizer of negative cycle dynamics in the marriage. To a significant degree this dynamic gets taken down as a result of unpacking the actual “back and forth” negative instances in the marriage. However, there remain “additional complexities in bad objecting the other” that can best be revealed through depthful inquiry in the individual sessions. That is, it is in the individual sessions that each partners deepest personal reasons for resisting change and holding onto the view of the other as “bad” are laid bare. It is then the tying together of these deepest interior reasons to the repeated external patterns in the marriage… that results in the couples fullest healing.

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Commentaries on the Marriage-of-Opposites

  • Chapter 1: The Phenomenon
  • Chapter 2: Final Common Pathways
  • Chapter 3: The Problem Of Nondifferentiation And Developmental Levels
  • Chapter 4: Defensive Presentations – When Appearances Deceive
  • Chapter 5: The Impact Of Gender
  • Chapter 6: The Core- Versus Outer-Styled…Two Differing Projects

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