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People come to therapy seeking the wrong goals, but it gets them there!

January 15, 2016

Many people come into therapy seeking to be happy. Or rather they come to therapy because they are suffering and they are hoping to find a certain vision of happiness that will make the suffering go away. That they are suffering is genuine and is the best reason they are there, but that therapy will provide them the vision of happiness they seek is almost certain not to happen. The problem is, the “vision of happiness” is often an aspect of the continued suffering in the first place!

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About Orin Borders, Ph.D.

Orin Borders, Ph.D, a psychologist in private practice with a long standing interest in the Marriage-Of-Opposites, is the originator on this site.

Current Project

Commentaries on the Marriage-of-Opposites

  • Chapter 1: The Phenomenon
  • Chapter 2: Final Common Pathways
  • Chapter 3: The Problem Of Nondifferentiation And Developmental Levels
  • Chapter 4: Defensive Presentations – When Appearances Deceive
  • Chapter 5: The Impact Of Gender
  • Chapter 6: The Core- Versus Outer-Styled…Two Differing Projects

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