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On feeling not real…

September 16, 2016

So many of us, in our insecurity and traumas, feel like we are a fraud, waiting to be found out. In this underlying frame of mind, we largely dismiss our genuine accomplishments… that in terms of what is emotionally important, they don’t count. Years of this experience can damage our inherent sense of “being real.” By this, I mean the emotional sense of being real… that one has truly lived and has partook in life, as have others around us. This is an enormously painful human place, a tragic combination of not feeling loved in ones core fused with annihilating shame. (to be cont.)

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About Orin Borders, Ph.D.

Orin Borders, Ph.D, a psychologist in private practice with a long standing interest in the Marriage-Of-Opposites, is the originator on this site.

Current Project

Commentaries on the Marriage-of-Opposites

  • Chapter 1: The Phenomenon
  • Chapter 2: Final Common Pathways
  • Chapter 3: The Problem Of Nondifferentiation And Developmental Levels
  • Chapter 4: Defensive Presentations – When Appearances Deceive
  • Chapter 5: The Impact Of Gender
  • Chapter 6: The Core- Versus Outer-Styled…Two Differing Projects

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