I am reminded again of the role that “learned helplessness” plays in our lives and our inner sense of self-contempt. That way we have things before us that require our effort and attention, and that frozen-in-amber feeling where we can’t find any good feeling associated with doing what needs to be done. And then the way that we avoid what’s before us, and then live with a daily feeling of things hanging over our heads. And then how we then don’t feel free to fully be in the moments of our days. And then the “inner failure feeling” that then starts to create a chronic feeling of self-reproach and wounded self-esteem. This whole pattern throws of us off in our lives… and at its worst, can leave us feeling like we barely have a life at all.
About Orin Borders, Ph.D.
Orin Borders, Ph.D, a psychologist in private practice with a long standing interest in the Marriage-Of-Opposites, is the originator on this site.