The problem with outer-styled organization is that this method of managing in life so effectively hides and shields against personal need/vulnerability that there is little inside to propel/motivate personal growth. The challenge for the therapist is to somehow penetrate the protections of an overused outer-self, in order to bring out more truly personal experience from within, but to do so in a way that “brings the patient along” rather than frighten/damage/or wound. This can only happen within a therapeutic atmosphere permeated by patience and support. Without patience/support and empathy for the underlying fear that often drives the outer-styled, the outer-styled will have nothing to hold onto during the moments of marital conflict, crisis and confrontation.
About Orin Borders, Ph.D.
Orin Borders, Ph.D, a psychologist in private practice with a long standing interest in the Marriage-Of-Opposites, is the originator on this site.
