The therapy sessions as a time to simply talk in a personal way!

Beyond the particular focus of this or that session, the couples sessions are a special time for the couple to actually spend connecting time together… something that is actually rare in many marriages. Many couples are so taken up with the business of family life, they actually spend very little personal time together. It is not uncommon for a couple to have quite positive family time together, but almost no significant personal time. Sometimes this is all that a session is…a time to spend hanging out in a personal way…and this is not a small thing. Of course, the therapist task is to help create an atmosphere of safety that will enable a struggling couple to appreciate these moments with each other, and take them in. This is very helpful background work for the actual process of working through the negative cycles in the marriage. It is easier for the therapeutic work to take hold if couple has some feeling of liking each other.