At the end of it all, we all want some version of the same thing. To love and be loved. To be safe and secure. To be appreciated. To belong. To have a sense of positive status. To have positive self-esteem.
These traits are rooted in our biology. Their expression varies from culture to culture. And cultures pull for and emphasize different pieces of a common human picture.
And different life histories cover over and hide or distort these shared human qualities.
