Thinking about the two different action tendencies… to pursue or to avoid. And about how each in the marital dance, is somehow doing the best that they can… but within the framework of their respective tendency to either reach or to hang back. If each could tell their attachment story, there would be two different depictions of how contact comes to be made.
Each has a picture of how the love dance comes to fruition, but the pictures are commonly different, and in the fusion of loving, both are commonly unaware of how different the other’s picture is. And when the love dance fails each often miss-concludes that the other doesn’t actually love them at all.
