A distanced form of core-styled organization

I, along with others, have found it useful to divide core-styled self organization into three different types. The “pursuer form” is the most common and has been the subject of much of our discussion here.  A second type is the “core with outer-styled defense form,” also a common form of organization, but one which we will discuss elsewhere. The third, which in my experience is least common of the three, is the “distanced form of core-style.” We have seen in prior discussions how the core-styled can pull-away/push-away from their partner as a means of protecting from dissappointment on the one hand and engulfment fears on the other. For most core-styled these distancing behaviors are less prominent than pursuing behaviors. There are, however, a sizeable number of core-styled who adopt the push/pull-away adaptation to the exclusion of the pursuing mode. These are individuals who deep down inside long to reach out to others but who have come to feel so imperiled by the terribleness of the outcome, they commonly push/pull-away in advance. (to be continued)